People don’t take kindly to the comedian’s disparaging remarks about “nappy” hair on her CBS show, The Talk.
hey loves! sorry for the lack of updates but i’ve been sooooo super busy.. i’m working for The Root as their Grapevine editor and I wanted to share this clip and piece about comedian Sheryl Underwood railing against natural hair on her show ‘The Talk,’ calling it “nasty,” “nappy,” and “beady” while praising her co-hosts’ hair as “long,” “silky,” and “beautiful.” so sad.
How can I get those tee shirts you are wearing the nappy is not a bad word one and the purple one. Also do you have toddle sizes
hey! i sell the shirts myself at big cartel! you can find the store here: brokeymcpoverty.bigcartel.com. i have kids’ sizes in the purple shirt, but unfortunately not in the ‘nappy is not a bad word’ shirts :( the smallest kid’s size i carry is a small.. not quite toddler sized (unless you have a big toddler) but s/he can definitely grow into it!
Hello :) Ive been natural for about a year and a half. I Have 4c hair and it gets dry. I'm Thinking about adding Highlights, What kind of brands of hair dye would be Good for me? I don't want to add Bleach to my hair. I want Burgundy & Auburn Highlights. Thanks so much. :)
unfortunately i’m the wroooong person to ask about dying :-( there’s quite a bit of information on dye and such at CurlyNikki.com.. i’d be scared any advice i’d give you would make your hair fall out. lol!
Lol so I definitely just scrolled through your entire blog. You're AMAZING and I found myself saying OMG and YES to the majority of the problems and perks I read. I love your blog!
aw, thanks so much! i hope you’ll keep checking in! you gotta be patient with me tho.. sometimes updates take awhile. but as long as i have this mane on my head there will be plenty to rant about! :-D thanks so much for the kind words!
You're amazing. I do need to find a good deep conditioner because I don't think what I'm using always conditions like I need it to. I do have the olive oil deep conditioner though. I don't use sulfates on my hair and I so use extra virgin olive oil. I'm using mostly Shea Moisture products at the moment, I used to only use raw shea butter but i ran out. Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it! Also, do you have a technique for trimming your own hair?
i see.. i’d definitely suggest a sulfate wash and an apple cider vinegar rinse then.. buildup just might be your problem.
i try to do everything in my power to not trim my own hair because im terrified of chopping a chunk off, lol.. im very accident prone :( the one time i did, though, i used a technique called dusting.. basically you twist your hair in medium sized twists and snip off the damaged portions at the end. i didn’t see much of a change or difference in my hair, but i was probably just too timid with the scissors. i gave up and just went to have someone else do it.
I am still trying to figure out what works for my hair and I just recently revamped my entire skin and hair care collection to get rid of mineral oil and sulfates. However, my scalp and hair feel drier without all that heavy stuff and I’m frustrated. I do think I like…
here are a few thoughts:
are you deep conditioning well and regularly? the importance of a deep conditioning can NOT be understated; i recommend doing it every time you wash your hair with a sulfate shampoo.
speaking of washing, are you doing no-poo/conditioner cleanses only? if so, i’d still suggest washing with a sulfate at least once a month, because it’s very easy to amass buildup even when you’re being careful to prevent it. also, try an apple cider vinegar rinse; that’s great for removing build up and whipping the hair cuticle back into shape, improving moisture retention.
think about incorporating regular, kitchen-found items into your regimen. extra virgin olive oil, coconut oil, avocado oil, etc. can do as well for—if not better than—store bought, often expensive products. coconut oil and tea tree oil are VERY good for a dry scalp. find yourself a good conditioner (i recommend trader joe’s nourish spa conditioner), add an oil of your choice (i recommend avocado oil), and also add some raw honey which has *amazing* moisturizing properties. the oil and honey turn the conditioner in to an absolute beast of a moisturizing and softening agent.
do you sleep on silk or satin at night? cotton and other fabrics can be harsh and suck all the moisture out of your hair. invest in a silk or satin scarf or pillow case!
do you seal your hair? that’s also great for locking in moisture; after washing and conditioning, moisturize with a water based product, then apply an oil of your choice. it seals the hair shaft, keeping the moisturizing goodness in.
The erasure of Quvenzhané’s name is an attempt, consciously or unconsciously, to step around and contain her blackness. Yes, sometimes black people have names that are difficult to pronounce. There aren’t many people of European descent named Shaniqua or Jamal. Names are as big a cultural marker as brown skin and kinky hair, and there has long been routine backlash against both of those things (see: perms, skin bleaching creams, etc.). This insistence on not using Quvenzhané’s name is an extension of that “why aren’t you white?” backlash.
Calling Quvenzhané “Little Q” is a lazy way to keep from having to deal with the discomfort that race causes. It is easier to be colorblind, to simply turn a blind eye to the differences that have torn this nation apart for centuries than it is to wade through those choppy waters. And Quvenzhané’s very existence is enough to make the societal majority uncomfortable. She is talented, successful, beautiful, happy, loved, and adored–all things that many people don’t figure that little black girls with “black” names could, or should, be. Their answer? Let’s make her more palatable. If she insists on not fitting the mold of the ghetto hoodrat associated with women with “urban” names, let’s take her own urban name away from her.
The spirit of Harriet Tubman came to me a few moments ago and smacked me in the face and said ‘how dare you dishonor your ancestors by not giving your comrades in this hair struggle a little hook up on these awesome shirts you’re selling?!’
I have seen the error of my ways and am pleased to off you all a 15% discount on your ENTIRE order at brokeymcpoverty.bigcartel.com with code HTUB15! good through the end of the month!
there’s been a random upswing in orders lately, so they won’t be here long! “kinky & coily & curly & awesome” shirt in adult and youth, and “nappy is not a bad word” in adult are still available.
run run run! go go go! DON’T MAKE HARRIET TUBMAN COME AFTER YOU! she has a heavy hand :-(
What is (and would you recommend) training one's hair? I ask because I currently live in an environment where my choice of styles (e.g. frohawk) are seen by those I care about as "nappy and unkempt" because it isn't properly trained
hmm. i don’t think i’ve ever heard of “training” one’s hair. i did a quick google search and found this discussion on training natural hair to curl at Curly Nikki. hopefully it’ll help! does anyone else have anything to chime in?
and if i may say, re: resolving the “nappy and unkempt” issue—it seems like the only things to resolve are the unkempt part (if it’s truly unkempt) and caring about how others see your hair. MUCH easier for me to type than it is to just stop caring, especially when it comes to people you care about. but, it’s worth it to try. those who really love and care about you should be able to accept all of your natural self; the beauty they love in you shines through regardless of what your hair is doing. or at least it should.
going natural is an exercise for us, the ones who choose to stop following societal norms, and the ones in our lives, who must also release themselves from the same norms. hair is just hair, and i urge you to do with it what makes you happy, but try to take inventory of whether or not you’re doing it for yourself, or for someone else.
so i’m all for people living their lives as they see fit. what works for one may not work for another, and if you like it, i love it. i use some stuff in my hair that people look down their nose at me at all the time.
that being said…
..maybe we can suggest a few other products for Bruno to try? LOL.
i hope you had a good holiday season! just wanted to let you guys know that i’m settled in to the new year and back to updating. if you’ve sent in any questions lately, look for answers soon!
on a personal tip, i rung in the new year with a wet bantu knot out, which i NEVER do bc they take so long to dry. but this time, i did them on smaller knots so they dried overnight. i think i like it!
I've been transitioning for about 7 months now, I think I'm a 4a/4b.I had a hairdresser who decided it would be smart to add color and straighten my hair almost every week. The color would leave my hair dry and rough so I decided to rock a sew in. I decided to get permed hair cut off so its very short. So I've been wearing sew ins to give my hair time to grow back. I'm thinking about wearing a half wig but I can only do a straight wig though, and I would have to straighten my hair. Any tips?
unfortunately i dont know anything about wigs and half weaves and sew ins and stuff like that, lol.. im a real dummy in that department :-(
if you’d like some tips on protecting your hair during heat styling, though, i wrote about a few in this post. there’s also some good information here and here.
Hi, what would be your advice to heal heat damage?
unfortunately, heat damage is pretty much permanent and irreversible. the best way to fix it is to prevent against it in the first place. :-( i know that’s not what you wanted to hear. i wish i had better news!
i wrote about coaxing your curls back to life after heat styling, and precautions to take while heat styling, awhile ago; i hope there’s something in there that helps!
How often do you trim? I realised seek and destroys aren't the one cos I'm too f'ing lazy to remember to do it every time I see a split but after trimming one half today I feel like if I do this every month my hair will never get any longer, lol. Guessing it's probs a moisture issue too so I'll look into that, but still, how often? Love your blog, I thought you'd deleted for some reason...
i personally go get a trim at least once every six months, but it’s important to know that i am broke and lazy and hate going to go get my hair done (i only go get it done when i need a trim because i can’t do it myself). or, i let my hair tell me when it needs a trim—when i notice that my hair looks frizzier than usual, or my twist sets, braid outs, and bantu knot outs aren’t behaving correctly (frizzing out, not holding, etc), then i know it’s time to get a trim.
everybody is different, so i can’t really tell you how often you should trim it. i asked my twitter folks, and most of them say they trim every 2-3 months or so. i’d say just pay attention to your hair; if your ends are looking particularly ashy no matter what you do to them, might be time to holler at some scissors. but, if it’s been 6 months and it’s still doin okay, you’re probably good!
speaking of moisture, here are some tips on how to keep your hair moisturized. i hope this has helped! (& thanks so much for the kind words! i didn’t delete, just got really busy and neglected this site for awhile. but we’re back, baby! glad you’re still here with us!)
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so. i looooove bangs, right. but since i’m natural, it’s tough to keep and maintain them—they always look so cute when my hair is straight, but when i wear my hair curly, i look like a sheepdog, at best, and just plain weird at worst. so awhile ago i said to myself, ‘i wish they had some clip on bangs so i could just wear them when i wanted them.’ a quick google search showed me that they do, in fact, exist. woo! i was way excited—until i looked at the price tag. too rich for my blood, especially when they just may look a fool when i actually get them and put them in my head.
enter a right-on-time email from PerfectLocks.com. PerfectLocks is, according to the website, “a leading retailer of premium virgin Indian hair, providing authentic human hair extensions at competitive prices to customers and salons around the world.” they make all kinds of hair pieces—full wigs, half wigs, lacefronts, closures… and clip-on bangs!
they were kind enough to send me a piece to review, and i was super excited. i was nervous too though—there is nothing that irks me more than seeing a pretty girl with an obvious horse mane on her head. i am all in favor of wigs and weaves, as long as they look natural. please don’t be out here in these streets looking like a Jerry Springer show guest. so i really wanted to be able to blend the piece in with my natural hair. they have a variety of colors available; i chose “natural black/brown” since my hair is a dark brown (with a slight red tint due to henna).
my first observation: these bangs are LONG. they’re made more to be swept to the side rather than worn down straight over the eyebrows. i was kind of dismayed by this because i am all about a big high bun and dramatic bangs, a la evelyn lozada on the last basketball wives reunion. but the good news is that you can trim the bangs as you wish. (i have an unsteady hand, so i didn’t trim mine. yet.)
the bangs for the most part actually look natural, though i DID find them hard to blend in with my own straightened hair. i think this is because my hair was a lot flatter than the bangs themselves.. they had some bounce and body, and my hair was bone straight. they looked a little more natural after i flattened them some with a flat iron, and even MORE natural when i tied them down with a scarf.
i instagrammed these two pictures thinking they looked a little obvious, but most folks commenting said they looked natural and i could probably only tell the difference because it’s my hair. that could be true. and im positive that with more curl and body, they’ll blend in a LOT better than they do so far.
and now, the bad: there’s only one clip comb attached to the bangs with which to secure them to your head, right at the top. they really should have put two more on there, one on each side, to help them lay better/more naturally. with the one clip at the top, one good gust of wind and everybody knows your secret. i tried to pin down the sides with a couple of bobby pins, but that just looked obvious and silly.
i still have some experimenting to do, but overall, i am totally in favor of these bangs. they’re an easy, welcomed change to my normal look without having to commit to permanence or the awkwardness of cutting bangs into your natural hair. they’re fun! but, just make sure that the length of your hair is a silky as the bangs are. keep it all on the same page!
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